Tuesday, September 27, 2011

The Dating Fascination

What is it with talking about dating that makes people so annoyed and intrigued at the exact same time? I don't think most people go a single day without at least mentioning dating and/or marriage. And I'm probs not exempt from this. As ridiculous and hilarious and awesome as dating is, no one really seems to understand it. One might think a simple formula for dating exists, I like to believe it does, but somehow it gets confounded in every which way.

I'm a pretty honest and straight-forward person. It's not like if I'm interested in a guy I'm going to straight up tell him, "Hey, I would legitimately consider dating you and entering into a relationship beyond platonic friendship. How do you like them apples?" Yeah, that won't be happening. I'm not that honest. But I am the kind of person who won't play "games," like when girls act interested in other guys to make the guy they are really interested in jealous . . . What's that about? Does that actually work? I can't imagine it yields great results. If a guy I had interest in were to (attempt) to make me jealous, well, that would be the end of my interest. A little more honesty would go a long way, and to me honesty is basically the only formula for dating you need. It's served me quite well thus far.

Despite the intense fascination with dating and figuring out how to discover if someone is interested in you, people sure do have a round about way of dealing with things. While it has been deemed "normal" for the guy to ask the girl out on the first date, whenever girls ask guys out on dates, people seem to label that girl as too "forward." Or it's seen as a "just friends" date. Don't get me wrong, I love a good date w/ a good friend that you know will never lead to anything, but why is it that girls asking guys they are interested in on dates gets such a bad reputation? I would think that with all the time we spend talking and contemplating the art and practice of dating, we might be a little better at it. Of course, there are some people that seem to have got it all figured out. And yet they cannot often explain, at least very well, how it happened, how things worked out.

I suppose the fascination with dating is just that: fascinating. People love to fall in love. And others love to know why and how. It's a neat experience. (You probably haven't heard love referred to as neat before . . . You're welcome.)

Here's a quote by Oscar Wilde I've absolutely loved since reading it for the first time this summer.

We can have in life but one great experience at best, and the secret of life is to reproduce that experience as often as possible.

So it's not specifically about love, at least I don't think it's supposed to be. Nevertheless, it applies. I've always read it with the concept of love in mind. That one great experience, realizing you do love and are loved, is a big deal. We all have those moments at times. Sometimes we just realize how much people care about us and how much people need us. Those are great moments and we could all use a few more of them.

In conclusion, go on more dates. Crack the dating fascination code. I'll let you know if I make any progress myself.

Last YouTube video I watched: Show Me Where Ya Noms At

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